Wednesday, 31 October 2012

The Horror Hiding Behind The Doors of Auntie.. #childabuse

The BBC, known to many in the U.K as "Auntie" is the British Broadcasting Corporation.The British Broadcasting Corporation (BBC) is a British public service broadcasting corporation headquartered in London, United Kingdom. The BBC employs in excess of 23,000 people and operates under licence and agreement from the UK Home Secretary i.e The Government.

The Corporation's guaranteed income from the licence fee (every household with a television MUST pay a viewing licence with failure punishable by a jail term) and the World Service grants are supplemented by profits from commercial operations through a wholly owned subsidiary, BBC Worldwide Ltd. The company's activities include programme- and format-sales. The BBC also earns additional income from selling certain programme-making services through BBC Studios and Post Production Ltd., formerly BBC Resources Ltd, another wholly owned trading subsidiary of the corporation. Most of the BBC's magazine and book publishing activities were sold in 2011.

Some victims of the paedophile Jimmy Savile claim (and I believe them) that an organised paedophile ring was at work behind the doors of the BBC. Savile was a high profile employee of the BBC with his own television and radio shows. The allegations get more and more serious – now a lawyer has accused the BBC of harbouring and protecting a paedophile ring. Veteran BBC journalist John Simpson is right in that it’s the most serious crisis to face the organisation for at least 50 years. If it is show that there was any complicity by the organisation to these acts, then I don’t know what the consequences could be for one of our oldest and (formerly at least) respected institutions. Heads should roll if there’s any sniff of a cover-up by top brass during the Newsnight investigation fiasco. As for the people who worked there at the time – well, there’s no statute of limitations for criminal prosecution in this country; I would say there may be one or two, probably several, very worried people.

Others from the BBC include Chris Denning, a DJ who started out like Savile on Radio Luxembourg and moved on to the BBC, where he was one of the original Radio 1 DJs, and who has a number of convictions for child sex offences. Denning, 71, was first convicted for gross indecency in 1974, jailed in 1985 and then in 1988 for sexual assaults on children. He is in jail in Slovakia for producing child pornography.

Even DJ and presenter John Peel, who died eight years ago, may now come under scrutiny. As a young man, he worked in Texas as a local radio station DJ and admits taking advantage of the young girls queueing up outside his studio to offer him sexual favours. “All they wanted me to do was to abuse them sexually which, of course, I was only happy to do,” he once recalled. One of the teenagers was a girl called Shirley Anne Milburn. Peel was 26 and Shirley Anne just 15 when they married in Texas in 1965. The couple came back to London, but the marriage faltered as Peel’s career took off. They divorced in 1973 and Shirley Anne returned home, committing suicide some years later.

In 2001 former pop singer, radio DJ and television presenter Jonathon King was found guilty of
For years Jonathan King used his celebrity status to become a rampant sexual predator. He bribed his  young male victims with watches and records and gained the trust of their parents who thought he was above suspicion.

After Jonathan King’s conviction in 2001, intense speculation followed that Savile would be next. “There were several high-profile male celebrities whose names cropped up as a result of the King enquiry and Savile’s was included in the list of those under suspicion,” a police source told The Sunday Telegraph. “This related to the abuse of under-16s. He was looked into but at the time the suspicions were never proved. There was no firm evidence to link him with any criminal activity.”

King left prison after serving only half his seven year jail term... He later claimed he enjoyed his time behind bars immensely. Ex BBC director general Mark Thompson had even been "forced" to apologise to disgraced pop impresario Jonathan King after he was cut out of a repeat of BBC's Top of the Pops show......

Jimmy Savile's paedophilia appears consistent with the BBC's culture and effectiveness at covering up what went on and might still be going on behind it's doors.

How many BBC employees helped these paedophiles and are guilty by association and aiding and abetting the sexual exploitation and molestation of innocent children? How many BBC managers and directors knew and did nothing? Silence is collusion! How many more victims are out there, afraid or ashamed to speak up? We, the British public pay the television licence which has in turn paid for children to be used and abused...

All the information in this article can be found and verified from several web resources. 

Ysbryd Y Nos / Spirit Of The Night #Halloween

Ysbryd Y Nos

Pan ddaw lleisiau'r nos i 'mhoeni,
A siffrwd gwag y gwynt i'm hoeri,
Ti sy'n lliwio'r blode
A mantell gwlith y bore:
Tyrd, Ysbryd y Nos.

Ysbryd y Nos, tyrd yma'n awr,
Gwasgara'r ofnau cyn daw'r wawr;
Diffodd y t'wyllwch, tyrd a'r dydd:
Gad im ddod o'r nos yn rhydd.

Pleth dy wallt mewn rhuban euraidd
Yn gynnes yn dy olau peraidd,
A bysedd brau y barrug
Yn deffro hun y cerrig:

Ysbryd y Nos, tyrd yma'n awr,
Gwasgara'r ofnau cyn daw'r wawr;
Diffodd y t'wyllwch, tyrd a'r dydd:
Gad im ddod o'r nos yn rhydd.

Ysbryd y Nos, rho d'olau mwyn,
Ysbryd y Nos, rho im dy swyn,
Ysbryd y Nos, fel angel y dydd,
Ysbryd y Nos, enaid y pridd.

Ac yno yn y dyffryn tawel
Mi glywaf gan yn swn yr awel
A neges hud y geirie
Yn hedfan dros y brynie:
Tyrd, ysbryd y Nos.
Ysbryd y Nos, tyrd yma'n awr,
Gwasgara'r ofnau cyn daw'r wawr;
Diffodd y t'wyllwch, tyrd a'r dydd:
Gad im ddod o'r nos yn rhydd.

English Translation

Spirit of the Night

When the night's voices come to taunt me,
and the empty whipsers of the wind to chill me,
with dew you paint the flowers
throughout the early hours;
come, Spirit of the Night.

And when the waves haul the silver shells
to rustle in their silk uniform,
I know you will be there
ready to comfort me;
come, Spirit of the Night.

Spirit of the Night, come to me,
banish my fears before the dawn;
dismiss the darkness, bring on day,
free me from the night, I say.

Braid your hair with golden ribbons
tenderly in your sweet light,
while winter's icy fingers
spread frost upon the windows;
come, Spirit of the Night.

Spirit of the Night, give your gentle glow,
Spirit of the Night, enchant me now,
Spirit of the Night, like an angel of light,
soul of the earth, Spirit of the Night.

And here in this peaceful valley
a breeze-borne song rings out so sweetly
and the magic in its meaning
brings comfort to my dreaming
come, Spirit of the Night.

Spirit of the Night, come to me,
banish my fears before the dawn;
dismiss the darkness, bring on day,
let me come, let me come free.

A Midnight Waltz #Halloween #Poetry

Happy Halloween everyone!

A midnight waltz with a fallen angel
And your dreams will be fulfilled
The stars will twinkle with the beat
Of knowledge for which some have killed
Behind the curtain of darkness
Lies a single ray of light
Shadows of the past at your heels
A pain that holds you tight
I come to you with a simple offer
A dance to meet your every goal
I'll give you your dreams on a burning plate
But in return, in return, I want your soul
My enchanting tune will lure you in
And test the power of your will
While a breeze of suppression hides the truth
My intent is purely ill
I'll take the form of anything
To beguile you with my charm
Don't worry! It's just a little dance
How could it bring you harm?
A moonlit dance with destiny
Will cure you of all your ills
Will you be able to withstand the temptation
Or will you submit to a midnight waltz?

Tuesday, 30 October 2012

When will we start listening to children who are abused? #childabuse

I wanted to share this article I read in the Guardian newspaper a month ago. The original content can be found HERE and all rights belong to Julie Bindel and The Guardian.

If you have been a victim of this vile, predatory paedophile (or any other) please contact a support group such as NAPAC, The NSPCC or similar. There is support available and you WILL be believed!

Jimmy Savile, the television presenter and media personality, knighted for his charity work for sick and disabled children is to be exposed as a prolific sexual abuser of girls as young as 12 in a documentary this week. This news will not come as a shock to many, as the rumours about Savile have been in the public domain for decades. That's the truly shocking part of this story – so many people either knew or suspected the fact that Savile was assaulting underage girls but chose to do nothing whatsoever about it.
A number of Savile's former colleagues interviewed for the documentary admitted that his predatory behaviour towards young girls was an open secret at the BBC. Wilfred De'Ath, who worked with Savile in the 1960s, told of how he spoke to a girl he believed to be 12 years old while she was in bed with the presenter the morning after he had seen Savile with her at a restaurant, describing her as like a "little lost soul". De'Ath admitted that it was "common gossip" that Savile was an abuser. Still, it appears that neither he nor any other colleagues reported him either to the BBC bosses or police.
It is a shame that the evidence against Savile was not tested when he was alive. In 2007, Surrey police received a complaint from a woman who said she was sexually assaulted by Savile at an approved school that Savile regularly visited in the 1970s, but the Crown Prosecution Service decided there was insufficient evidence to take it forward.
Esther Rantzen hits the nail on the head in an interview about the revelations when she says, "in some way we colluded with him as a child abuser" and that, "We made him into the Jimmy Savile who was untouchable, who nobody could criticise." But it is not only celebrities who are protected from justice. Throughout society, there is a culture of denial, minimisation and disbelief around child sexual abuse. It would seem that child sexual predators are often better protected than their victims.
Savile is not the only one in show business about whom rumours were rife before those alleging child sexual abuse came forward. Jonathan King was sentenced to seven years in prison in 2001 for the sexual assault of five teenage boys between 1983 and 1989, but after his arrest dozens more came forward and said it had happened to them too. Apparently it was no secret that King groomed young boys for sex among those in the music business.
In 1999 Gary Glitter was convicted on 54 counts of possession of child pornography. At time of his conviction several of those who used to work or socialise with Glitter said it was well known that Glitter sought out young girls for sex.
Why do we so often fail to act when we suspect or even know that children are being sexually abused? Nothing prompts the question more than the disgraceful example of the grooming gangs in Rochdale in which scores of girls were drugged, raped and sold by men who were afforded better protection than their victims were until the criminal justice system and child protection agencies were forced to act. In 2008, one victim of the most serious abuse and exploitation reported to the police and another agency that she had been the victim of serious sexual assaults by adult men but the focus was more on her behaviour than of the abusers.
The testimonies of the women that appear in the Savile documentary are heartbreaking. One spoke of how she was raped by Savile, but that she blamed herself because "no one blamed him." Another was locked in an isolation unit for days at her approved school when she made allegations about Savile in the 1970s, because she was assumed to be lying, as are so many abused children both then and now. "No one believed me then and I don't expect anyone to believe me now." Unless we start listening to children, in decades to come we will be hearing the same tragic stories.

All Hallows Eve

There's a bite in the air, a chill on the ground
This time of year restless spirits abound...
The laughter of children, dressed up for the night
Give them a treat, or be prepared for a fright....

Day loses it's battle, night extends it's dark power
Beware if you're around at the witching hour...
All Hallows Eve, a day celebrated through time
Ignore not it's meaning, ignorance a crime....

Summer days are long gone,  the harvest is in
Winter approaches; Let the hauntings begin...
Witches, werewolves, vampires and ghouls
The dead walk tonight!! Beware, ignorant fools...

Monday, 29 October 2012

The Abused Addict – The Ultimate Fight #childabuse #survivors @Together_WeHeal

This will be a little different than previous articles, in that, this is not so much solution based, as it is issue based. I just want to bring to light an issue that many survivors of abuse have to deal with on a daily basis…Addiction – whether it is to alcohol, drugs or something else.

As an addict, you must first recognize that you are not "in control" and you are powerless to the addiction. And it is acknowledging this "giving up control" that enables the addict to begin their healing.

Meanwhile, as a survivor of abuse – while we are being abused we are also helpless and powerless and taking charge is empowering. Claiming power is a significant experience of healing. It enables us to reclaim what was taken from us when we were abused.

So, survivors who are also addicts have a razor thin line to walk (and just as sharp), of giving up control of addiction while regaining control from abuse.

Is it any wonder why so many fall back off the wagon, are never able to maintain a healthy mental/emotional/physical life, or even commit suicide.

We have these solutions that run simultaneous and contradictory to each other – the Ultimate Battle – This is why it's so important to get professional help and seek the support from others such as AA/NA/SNAP and other support groups.

I had to address my addiction first before I was able to even acknowledge my abuse and face it. As they say in NA, "face life on life's terms". Once I got clean from narcotics, I was finally able to reach out to Dr. Light and confront my abuser, Frankie Wiley.

Now in reclaiming my power over my abuser, the addiction is not the issue it once was – and that is because my primary reason for using drugs was to numb myself from the pain of the abuse.

Now that I have had my abuser removed from 3 jobs where he had power over kids, I have regained my power – but I KNOW that I will NEVER have power over the narcotics – they control me in such a negative way that I can never do them without extreme, awful consequences.

Just because this is what worked for me, does not mean it will be the direction a fellow survivor will have to take as a path to healing – seek the professional help that is available to you – we have therapists here and there are many others out there with other groups – if not here, just get help somewhere.

As I said – this is not a solution article – I just wanted everyone to know what many survivors have to deal with and if someone in your life is going through this – maybe it will help you better understand what they are going through – remember, love is patient and kind – and that is ultimately what we need in the battle we face – patience and kindness…and true love.


Over the last few weeks as a guest blogger on Rachel Grant Coaching, we have talked about childhood sexual abuse as it relates to addiction, depression, anxiety, abandonment, PTSD, the impact it may have on our DNA…Lions and Tigers and Bears, OH MY!!! I only make a joke not to make light of our situation as survivors, but rather to bring a little levity to a situation that for some of feels like the sky is falling and we are being attacked on multiple fronts by creatures that can devour us. So with all of these potential pitfalls and problems seeming to lurk around every corner, what do we do?
Having done my usual research and even stepping into waters just being tested, I have come across both the usual suspects of therapy and a couple not so well-known. It is my hope that no matter whether one of these specific therapies helps you or a loved one or not, you find one that does, because what I do know is that healing from abuse is not something that happens naturally. It takes help, it takes time and it takes work. So please do whatever you need to reach out and find the help that is available.
Under the category of “usual but relatively proven” therapies we find Psychotherapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Group Therapy, and Self-Help Groups.
Psychotherapy consists of a series of techniques for treating mental health, emotional and some psychiatric disorders. Psychotherapy helps the patient understand what helps them feel positive or anxious, as well as accepting their strong and weak points. If people can identify their feelings and ways of thinking they become better at coping with difficult situations.
Psychotherapy is commonly used for psychological problems that have had a number of years to accumulate. It only works if a trusting relationship can be built up between the client and the psychotherapist. Treatment can continue for several months, and even years.
Some people refer to psychotherapy as “talking treatment” because it is generally based on talking to the therapist or group of people with similar problems. Some forms of psychotherapy also use other forms of communication, including writing, artwork, drama, narrative story or music. Sessions take place within a structured encounter between a qualified therapist and a client or clients. Purposeful, theoretically based psychotherapy started in the 19th century with psychoanalysis; it has developed significantly since then.
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a type of psychotherapeutic treatment that helps patients understand the thoughts and feelings that influence behaviors. CBT is commonly used to treat a wide range of disorders, including phobias, addiction, depression and anxiety.
Cognitive behavioral therapy is generally short-term and focused on helping clients deal with a very specific problem. During the course of treatment, people learn how to identify and change destructive or disturbing thought patterns that have a negative influence on behavior.
The underlying concept behind CBT is that our thoughts and feelings play a fundamental role in our behavior. For example, a person who spends a lot of time thinking about plane crashes, runway accidents and other air disasters may find themselves avoiding air travel. The goal of cognitive behavioral therapy is to teach patients that while they cannot control every aspect of the world around them, they can take control of how they interpret and deal with things in their environment. Because CBT is usually a short-term treatment option, it is often more affordable than some other types of therapy. CBT is also empirically supported and has been shown to effectively help patients overcome a wide variety of maladaptive behaviors.
(Note from Rachel Grant: As as little aside, the Beyond Surviving program she developed for adult survivors of abuse draws upon many of the techniques used in CBT.)
Delivered in a group of people, Group Therapy and Self-Help Groups are for people who have experienced abuse and can be an extremely cathartic experience. Individuals who feel different, ashamed, or guilty as a result of the abuse will benefit immensely from discovering other people who have lived through similar experiences. Although not limited to groups like SNAP and The Lamplighters, they are certainly organizations that have proven themselves to be helpful for survivors of CSA.
(Note: Rachel Grant leads an Adult Survivors of Child Abuse support group every month in San Francisco and I am the South Florida Area support group leader for SNAP-Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests- – Additionally, The foundation, Together We Heal helps to provide counseling for those in need. Be sure to contact either of us and we can tell you more).
Next we have some relatively newer therapies, with regard to years of experience in the realm of psychology. TRE (Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises) is one. TRE is a simple technique that uses exercises to release stress or tension from the body that accumulates from every day circumstances of life, from difficult situations, immediate or prolonged stressful situations, or traumatic life experiences.
TRE is a set of six exercises that help to release deep tension from the body by evoking a self-controlled muscular shaking process in the body called neurogenic muscle tremors. The uniqueness of this technique is that this shaking originates deep in the core of the body of the psoas muscles. These gentle tremors reverberate outwards along the spine releasing tension from the sacrum to the cranium.
Another is by a former associate professor at the University of Kentucky’s educational and counseling psychology department, Kate Chard and it centers on Cognitive Processing. “It was the first NIMH-funded treatment outcome study on childhood sexual abuse,” she says. This three-year study of women (Chard has done an equivalent study with men) took adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse through a 17-week, manual-based program, with individual or a combination of individual and group sessions.
“What you think affects what you feel, which, in turn, affects what you do,” Chard says, summing up the basic theory behind cognitive therapy. “We build on this by saying that due to the traumatic event, the ability to process cognitively has become impaired. Biologists can look at the neurotransmitter connections in the brain and actually see differences between people who’ve been through traumatic events, such as childhood abuse, and people who have not.”
Another option is coaching. While still fairly new, coaching is a great option for survivors of abuse who are ready to move into the final stage of recovery. If you would like to learn more about coaching, you can of course give Rachel a call or email her. She’d be happy to answer any questions you might have about how coaching works.
While these are by no means all of the potential therapies out there, the point I am hoping comes through today is that no matter which type of therapy you seek as a survivor of abuse, the point is that you indeed seek one, and don’t stop until you find the one that works for you. As I mentioned earlier, it is of the utmost importance that you find professional help. Just as a police officer or military person is required to see a therapist when they go through an extraordinary time of trauma, so we as survivors of childhood sexual abuse must get assistance. What we have been through is beyond an extraordinary event, it’s beyond the pale. And seeking help does not mean we are weak, it shows no signs of lacking anything. To the contrary, it means you care enough about yourself and the ones that love you that you will take the necessary steps to ensure your continued growth as a person. Let me say this again, you aren’t weak, you are human, it’s ok for others to help you.
I had a reader ask me if I had heard of any therapies for survivors as they related to the use of animals, they spoke specifically of horses. And while I did not find any with horses, what I DID find was some exciting news. I discovered the following article and subsequent foundation that uses dogs to help survivors of all types of trauma, and other therapeutic needs. While its not specific for CSA, I have no doubt that it has the potential to help both children and adults, as it does with other forms of trauma. So please look into it if you are finding that what you have tried has not been successful for you. As I mentioned in this article, the main objective is to keep trying until you find what works for you. We are all different and what works for one might not work for another. But I know you can find something that WILL work for you as long as you look.
And thank you to the reader that brought this to my attention. You may never know who all will be helped with this knowledge…but you can rest assured that someone will benefit from it. Thank you! 

Copyright David Pittman @Together_WeHeal

Together We Heal

Sunday, 28 October 2012

Questions To Consider #childabuse #Survivors

If a lack of being loved, respected, etc, is a problem, what could you do, in order to feel safer in yourself?

If loss of innocence is a problem, is it likely to prevent you from gaining a perspective that is kinder to you and to those you meet?

If nightmares and the fears attached to them are a problem, what could you do to ensure that you overcome those fears?

What fears do you have that seems to be preventing you from moving on?
What could you do in order those fears?

Do you think that the abuse you survived wasn't as bad as others suffered, therefore you dont need support and help?

Having started to wake up to the realisation that your life has been affected by the abuse you suffered, in every way imaginable, what are you going to do about it?

There are often deep rooted and hidden secrets that you wouldnt feel safe talking about, but those are the issues that you have to start talking about, and recover from, otherwise it will remain as a stumbling block to your recovery.

What consider what it is that you need to do in order to ensure you are free from the thoughts that haunt you.

What could you do to leave behind the negative thoughts, and move forward?

What are your immediate thoughts, and feelings, when faced with a memory of the abuse you suffered?

How hard do you find it to be honest with yourself, and others? Why is that, and where does it come from?

Why do you find it difficult to be free and honest in speech and manner?

Do you avoid having sex, or being intimate, because it reminds you of what happened to you when abused?

What could you do to regain control of your sexual life?

It's your life after all, and the memories that prevent you having or enjoying sex is your abusers way of stopping you live your life, but don't allow them to control you any longer.

It's time for you to recover!

Saturday, 27 October 2012

A Sex Offender On Every Corner #ChildAbuse


(pronounced as "Ped-o-skeels", see why below.)


The UK Government had to admit what we already know, namely that there is at least three pedosceles in every neighbourhood in the UK, or one on every street corner!
Previous estimates were that over 250,00 sex offenders were in the UK, but that figure is due to rise!
These new figures have partly arisen because of Police investigations into Internet Paedophiles, where over 6,5000 names were discovered in the UK alone, follwoing just ONE investigation and thousands more names were passed onto the British Police.
The Police state that more sexual and physical abuse of children takes every year than any other crime, including mobile phone theft!
That is a staggering admission, and it is shameful that the Police are unresourced by the Government to prosecute these abusers and save children from abuse
The the Metropolitan Deputy Assistant Commissioner, Carol Howlett stated that "despite a specific and increasing threat to children on the Internet, not enough priority is given to catching Internet Paedophiles". But...slowly but surely, the Police are tracking them down
More than 120,000 convicted pedosceles are currently free in England and Wales, and able to continue abusing children.
N.B. 120,000 pedosceles are the official figures, and does not account for those not convicted, or even reported.
People need to recognise that pedosceles are all around us, as are survivors, and like most survivors, they stay silent, but they hide for sinister reasons.
There is no set scenario for an abuser, and recent cases reported in the UK include church ministers, teachers, police, doctors, lawyers, scout leaders, football and sports coaches, your next-door neighbour, favourite uncle, that 'kind old man' living on his own.
Survivors have named politicians, 'famous' people and those of whom no-one would ever consider possible of abusing children, but they do, using the ‘pillar of community’ status, getting away with it for years.
Why do pedosceles consider sex with children as acceptable behaviour?
Almost all are either unable or unwilling to connect and relate to adults.
(They are incapable of having and maintaining normal relationships, including sex, with adults.)
Most pedosceles are in relationships, hold down responsible jobs and are seen as nice dependable people with children’s interests at heart.
Female pedosceles are known to be far more sadistic in their abuse of children.


Why and how do sex offenders believe what they do is right, and how do they justify their actions?
There are four stages pedosceles go through.
PRE-CONDITION 1: Thoughts and fantasies
a) Emotional need. The sexual abuse of a child 'satisfies' some underlying need of the offender.
b) Sexual arousal: children are wrongly seen as a source of sexual arousal/gratification.
c) Blockage: Other methods of gratification are unavailable or less sexually satisfying than the abuse of a child.
PRE-CONDITION 2:Giving permission
Once the first pre-condition is satisfied, the offender says “ Its okay to do this because…” Once done they convince themselves that they have a right to abuse a child.
PRE-CONDITION 3: Creating an opportunity
The first two stages relate to the factors concerning the abuse. This indicator relates to external factors;
a) Targeting the victim b) Grooming the victim and environment to sexual abuse.
PRE-CONDITION 4: Overcoming the victims resistance
By using physical force and/or psychological coercion.
Source: David Finkelhor. 'A source on child sexual abuse' (1986)

The cycle consists of the following;
Thoughts and Fantasies: on who and why to abuse a child, and when in that frame of mind, they believe what they do to be normal and right, but in reality are stuck in fantasy!
Creating the opportunity: to create an abusive situation where they can carry out the abuse.
Overcoming the victim’s resistance: placing blame, guilt, shame on the child, and ensure that they keep silent.
This leads to them thinking;
“I said I wouldn’t do it again, but i did, so never mind”
“It just happened, and I'm not to blame really”
“I couldn’t control the urges, and therefore its not my fault”
“It wasn’t my fault, the child was too pretty, asked for it, or even lead me on”
This distorted and sick pattern of thinking allows the pedosceles to excuse their behaviour, and to place the blame onto the child for being too good looking, nice to hold, nice to touch, even asking to be touched/loved.
It fits the pedoscele psyche, allowing those working with them to see if they have begun the pattern of abuse.
If you consider very few survivors of child sexual abuse report their abusers, you get some idea of the real number of survivors out there, who have yet to speak out, and get the support the need and deserve
Sexual offending is an extreme form of compulsive and obsessional behaviour way beyond the realms of normality!

It involves :
1. High levels of planning including the selection and preparation of victims (grooming). Child sex offenders work out a strategy to enable the abuse to take place and avoid detection afterwards.
2. Distorted thinking patterns, “blaming the victim". Pedosceles minimise their actions by pretending their 'victim' either deserved or wanted their sexual attention.
3. Fantasising about their planned and previous offences, going through the abuse in their mind, acting it out, building towards carrying out the actual offence.
Sex offending is often a cyclical process, with pedosceles targeting their 'victims', de-personalising them through fantasy and distorted thinking, sometimes even rehearsing part of the offence and building up to the offence itself.
Research work shows that many of them were sentenced for only a small proportion of the offences they have carried out.
Research and personal work experience shows that it is not possible to "cure" sex offenders and that they are always a major risk to all children, at all times.
" There is no treatment procedure known to man that can change a sexual abuser against his will." (Statement from copy of letter from the Children’s Safeguards and Child Protection, Dept of Health)
Chemical castration and other forms of treatment are always suggested, but if castrated, they can still touch and destroy a child’s life.
What are the possible risks involved in making certain that pedosceles are never allowed near children again? NONE!
There is no risk involved in ensuring they are kept well away from children at all times, and monitored at all times. Lack of resources and money seems to be the common complaint, but we, the taxpayers, spend millions each year attempting to reduce the chances of them abusing again, but it fails to address the issues.
Survivors deserve some of that support and the finances to ensure the support is available, so why waste our money on them?

Pedosceles view sex with a child as a sexual relationship, in that both parties were willing, able and capable.
Typical explanations heard so far; "I allowed them to explore their sexuality" “Sex before eight, before its too late” Used by the members of the Pedoscele Information Exchange.
They minimise what happened by saying “I only did….”
They normalise their sexual behaviours, hiding it under legitimate touch, engaging in play-fights etc.
They make their victims take on guilt by saying,
“Look what you made me do”.
“Mummy will be upset if she finds out, I’ll go to prison”
“You’ll go into care if you tell anyone”
“No one will believe you anyway”
They spend hours, days, weeks, months, even years targeting and grooming the victim and family.
Pedosceles in prison target 'lonely heart' columns looking for single mothers. All the prison staff can do is monitor the post, if allowed, and report to appropriate people, but little action is taken.
The chief inspector of prisons tried to stop prisoners contacting lonely-hearts columns, but was told that it is an infringement of their human rights, and they are allowed to place photos of children in their cells!
What of the rights of the child, supposedly enshrined in The Convention on the Rights of the Child, adopted by the United Nations in 1989?

Profile of A Pedoscele
Watch for them!
They don't wear a sign around their neck nor do they tell you.. Often they are right there, within your world.
They may be or are:
* Popular with both children and adults.
* Appears to be trustworthy and respectable.
* Has good standing in the community.
* Prefers the company of children.
* Feels more comfortable with children than adults.
* Mainly attracted to prepubescent boys and girls.
* Can be heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual.
* "Grooms" children with quality time, video games, parties, candy, toys, gifts, money.
* Singles out children who seem troubled and in need of attention or affection.
* Often dates or marries women with children that are the age of his preferred victims.
* Rarely forces/coerces a child into sexual contact. Usually done through trust and friendship, which creates guilt, shame and blame for the child being abused
* Physical contact becomes gradual, from touching, to picking up, to holding on lap, to kissing, etc.
*Derives gratification in a number of ways.
Taking pictures or watching children undress/dress.
Still others require more contact. 

* Are primarily (but not always) male, masculine, better-educated, more religious than average, in their thirties, and choose jobs allowing them greater access to children.  

* Are usually family men, have no criminal record, and deny that they abuse children, even after caught, convicted, jailed ordered to attend a sex offender programme.
* The marriage is often troubled by sexual dysfunction, serving as a smokescreen for the pedosceles true practices.
* Are sometimes, but not always, themselves victims of childhood sexual abuse.
Even if the pedoscele has no children, his home is usually child-friendly, with toys, books, video games, computers, bikes, swing sets, snacks - things to attract children to his home and keep them coming back. Usually the items reflect the preferred age of his victims.
* A female Pedoscele usually abuses a child when partnered with an adult male Pedoscele, and is often herself a victim of chronic sexual abuse.
* A pedoscele can act independently, or be involved in an organised ring, including the Internet, and other pro-paedophilia groups.
Some pedosceles recognise that their behaviour is criminal, immoral, and unacceptable by society, and operate in secrecy.
* Some are quite open and militant about their practices and advocate the normalization of paedophilia under the guise of freedom of speech and press, and uses innocuous language like "intergenerational intimacy."

Individual indicators fall into four areas:

1. "Damaged Goods": Low self-esteem, depression, self-destructiveness (suicide and self-mutilation), guilt, shame, and self-blame, constant search for approval and nurturing.

2. Betrayal: inability to trust blurred boundaries, role confusion, rage and grief, difficulty forming relationships.

3. Helplessness: Anxiety, fear, tendency towards re-victimization, panic attacks.

4. Isolation: Sense of being different, stigmatised, lack of supports, poor peer relations.

N.B. The first figure at the top of page is based on convicted pedosceles; it does not count those pedosceles who have never been caught or reported.

Remember - Two thirds of pedosceles in the UK fail to register, and continue to sexually abuse children !

Friday, 26 October 2012

Sabotage During Recovery #childabuse #survivors

Sabotage, or how you or others may prevent your recovery

All too often, male survivors begin their recovery, in the knowledge that it is possible, however painful it may be to recover, then they suddenly back off and stop working on the issues that made them call us in the first place!
So what's the answer to this, and how you can ensure that you wont this and wont be the one who doesn't fail at the first hurdle either.

DON'T MINIMISE THE ABUSEAll to often, I hear guys say "mine was nothing like yours" when we speak about the abuse suffered, and more often than not, when they attend group, they say,after hearing someones else story, that they shouldn't really be complaining.
That kind of response can cause you to think that the abuse you suffered wasn't that bad, it only happened a few times, but I can also guarantee that no matter what was done to you, or how long the abuse lasted, it has had the same devastating effects and affects upon you
Therefore, you deserve to be part of a group and should be complaining about the abuse you suffered, as its caused enough damage to you and those around you.
So no matter how long it lasted, or what you suffered, please don't feel like a fraud or that you don't deserve support, because you do.

Some people, even loved ones, don't want you to change without them, so try to stop you doing so. They won't help you, dragging you back to the past and feeling like you have for ages, which just reminds you of the past, perhaps by telling you how bad or sad you are, and will slowly drag you back down to their level

CLOSED OPTIONS:This is something you wil do to yourself, perhaps in thinking its better that you go about it alone, or maybe you get tangled up with with everything, without making decisions, thinking that you have always been this way, can't change and won't other words - 'conditional recovery'
You know that you should listen and perhaps wait, but ignore that and fall back into old habits, thoughts, feelings

Again, this is about storing old resentments, or behaviours up - saving them up, manufacturing resentments, hurt, blame, etc.
You store them up, and when it becomes too much for you, so you can explode or implode, revert back to previous actions and lifestyles, and before you know it, you're back at the beginning, lacking commitment to start again, and consider yourself to be a failure, again!


  • The unknown - Who or what am I.
  • Of honesty - Will I be accepted, or rejected?
  • Of responsibility - Can I survive, will I adapt/cope?

    PERMISSION:Can I do it?
    Do I give I myself permission to feel to be vulnerable?
    Who will I ask to help me?

    THREE MAIN AREAS TO WORK ON:1. Make quality decisions in your life, not the same mistakes, that you know will make you feel 'bad'.
    2. Identifying the cues and triggers that set you off, and make feel that way.
    3. Start to use the coping skills that work for you.
    You need to remain alert to the dangers that are ever present;
  • Recognise dangers signs.
  • Avoid placing yourself in high-risk situations.
  • Seek help when you need it.
  • Own the decision whether to react or not!
  • There is, and never will be a magic cure!
  • Use your common sense- take control of your life.
    Remember - Facing up to and coping with risks will build up your confidence.

    People needed around youThose who will play 'family' roles, in supporting you
    Friends who will support you, and hold you steady as you work towards your goals
    Supporters who will ensure you stay straight, in thinking and using modes

    How to do this?
    Sit down and write a list of people that can and will help you through people! Then ask those people you list to actually take on the roles required. Make sure you use them when needed and call them when you need and don't need to, safety first, second and third!
  • Thursday, 25 October 2012

    Paedophiles Rule The World ...CORRUPTION AT THE TOP #childabuse


    In 1999, an international investigation of child pornographers and paedophiles run by Britain's National Criminal Intelligence Service, code named Operation Ore, resulted in 7,250 suspects being identified in the United Kingdom alone. Some 1850 people were criminally charged in the case and there were 1451 convictions.

    Almost 500 people were interviewed "under caution" by police, meaning they were suspects. Some 900 individuals remain under investigation. In early 2003, British police began to close in on some top suspects in the Operation Ore investigation, including senior members of Blair's government. However, Blair issued a D-Notice, resulting in a gag order on the press from publishing any details of the investigation. Blair cited the impending war in Iraq as a reason for the D-Notice. Police also discovered links between British Labour government paedophile suspects and the trafficking of children for purposes of prostitution from Belgium and Portugal (including young boys from the Casa Pia orphanage in Portugal).

    Tony Blair: stifling investigations of paedophiles in his Labour government.

    In the United States, Operation Ore's counterpart was Operation Avalanche. However, U.S. authorities only charged 100 people out of 35,000 investigated. The international paedophile investigation began when Dallas police and the US Postal Inspection Service raided the offices of Landslide Productions of Fort Worth, Texas and confiscated records on thousands of people around the world who were child *********** customers of the firm.

    Landslide's halcyon days as a Fort Worth-based international online marketplace of kiddie **** was during the term of Texas Governor George W. Bush.

    WMR has learned that the Bush administration, like that of Blair, is rife with paedophiles in top positions. The paedophile network also extends to the U.S. defense industry, particularly some of the companies that have been involved in the sexual abuse of minors at overt and covert U.S. prisons in Abu Ghraib, Iraq; Guantanamo, Kosovo, Afghanistan, Thailand, and now, at three prisons in Ethiopia.
    Under Blair's government paedophiles get off with a slap on the wrist

    There is a lot more here that is being exposed. We already know about Lord George Robertson's (ex UK Defence Secretary 1997/98 and Sec Gen of Nato) links with Thomas Hamilton (Dunblane), procurer of young boys and a massive British establishment [Masonic] cover up.

    Blair government insider Lord Robertson has threatened to sue Scotland's leading independent newspaper over internet allegations that he not only used his influence as a Freemason to procure a gun licence for child killer Thomas Hamilton, but was also a member of a clandestine paedophile ring reportedly set up by Hamiltonfor the British elite.

    On 13 March 1996, Hamilton, armed with four hand-guns, opened fire on a junior school class, killing 16 children and one teacher before turning the gun on himself, shattering forever the idyllic 13th century Scottish town of Dunblane. Lord Robertson was the referee on Thomas Hamilton's shotgun licence.

    Hamiltonallegedly enjoyed good relations with both local Labour luminary George Robertson and Michael Forsyth, the then Scottish Secretary of State and MP for Stirling.

    Forsyth congratulated and encouraged Hamiltonfor running a boy's club.

    Hamilton was also found to have exchanged letters with the British monarch, Queen Elizabeth.

    'Assorted Party Political Perverts for your attention'

    . Tory Party General election candidate, Michael Powell - Convicted and jailed for 3 years for downloading hardcore child ****.

    . Tory Party Councillor (Wickbar/Bristol) Roger Talboys - Convicted and jailed for 6 years for multiple sex attacks on children

    . Tory Party MP (Billericay) Harvey Proctor - Stood trial for sex offences of a sado-masochistic nature against teenage boys, and was forced to resign.

    . Tory Party Councillor ( Stratford-upon-Avon) Christopher Pilkington - Convicted of downloading hardcore child **** on his PC. Placed on sex offenders register and forced to resign.

    . Tory Party councillor ( Coventry), Peter Stidworthy - Charged with indecent assault of a 15-year old boy.

    . Tory Party Mayor ( North Tyneside), Chris Morgan - Forced to resign after being arrested twice in 2 weeks, for indecent assault on a 15-year old girl, and for suspicion of downloading child ****.

    . Tory Party Liaison Manager on the London Assembly, Douglas Campbell, who's job includes running the Tory GLA website - Arrested for allegedly downloading child ****. He is currently suspended while the Police investigation continues.

    . Tory Party Councillor (Folkestone - in Leader, Michael Howard's constituency), Robert Richdale - 41 year history of crime, involving 30 convictions and 5 prison sentences. Richdales enormous criminal record, which covers 10 pages of A4 paper, includes convictions for assault, theft, causing death by dangerous driving, forgery, drugs offences, possession of an offensive weapon, and sex attacks against underage schoolgirls. The Tory Party election campaign literature described Richdale as "a family man" who had a "compassionate personality"

    . Labour Councillor (Newton Aycliffe) Martin Locklyn - Convicted and jailed for 15 years for sexually abusing 3 14-year-old boys.

    . Labour Councillor (North Lincolnshire) David Spooner - Convicted and jailed for 1 year for ************ in front of 2 young boys.

    . Labour Mayor (Westhoughton/Lancashire) Nicholas Green - Convicted and jailed for 10 years for 3 rapes and 13 counts of indecent assault against little girls between the age of 6 and 10. He raped one woman on her wedding day.

    . Prominent Labour Party activist Mark Tann (who has met Tony & Cherie at Party functions) recently got a 15-year sentence for raping a 4-year old girl on 2 separate occasions.

    . Entire Labour Party conspired to conceal the activities of Labour Party activist and serial child-molester Mark Trotter, who died from AIDS before he could be convicted.

    . Labour Councillor (Manchester), George Harding - Charged with indecent assault on a girl of 12.

    . According to media reports, the names of 2 former Labour Cabinet Ministers said to be `Household names` appear on the `Operation Ore ` list of subscribers to hard-core child ***********. The same FBI investigation, which led to the arrest of rock star Pete Townshend. So who are they Mr Blair?

    . William Straw - Son of Labour Foreign Secretary, and former Home Secretary - Jack Straw, was cautioned by Police for drug dealing, amid a frantic Government attempt to cover up the matter and gag the media as to his identity. Jack Straw also has a brother who was convicted of a sex attack on a schoolgirl. Lovely family!

    . Homosexual mass murderer; Dennis Nielsen, who strangled and dismembered 16 young men in the 1980`s, was also a highly active member of Labour fringe groups such as the Anti-Nazi League, and the SWP. That's when he wasn't busy boiling peoples heads in a pot, or ************ over the corpses of his victims.

    . Lib-Dem Council candidate (Tower Hamlets), Justin Sillman - Convicted and jailed for 2 years for sexual abuse of young boys.

    . Lib-Dem Councillor and Mayoral Candidate ( Sheffield), Francis Butler- Prosecuted for indecent assault of a young boy.

    . Lib-Dem Councillor ( Stockport) Neil Derbyshire - Sexually assaulted a 16-year old boy in a public toilet. He was caught with a plastic bag containing lubricant, plastic surgical gloves, a condom, and underpants.

    . Lib-Dem Councillor ( Preston), Bill Chadwick - Charged with: Making an indecent photograph of a child, Incitement to rape, Incitement to murder, Incitement to kidnap, and Incitement to torture. Chadwick's gay lover - Alan Valentine, is also a Lib-Dem councillor.

    This we are afraid is only the tip of the iceberg.

    Jimmy Savile's lone visits to morgue #childabuse

    TWISTED Jimmy Savile may have sexually abused CORPSES as well as kids, it emerged last night.

    Stoke Mandeville Hospital, where he worked as a volunteer, launched an investigation into his unaccompanied mortuary visits.

    It came as The Sun uncovered an interview in which the former BBC TV and radio host spoke of his fascination with dead bodies.

    The hospital, where Savile had his own room and allegedly abused several young patients, is probing whether he had keys to the mortuary or “interacted inappropriately” with corpses.

    A spokesman said: “We have been shocked to hear of the very serious allegations about Jimmy Savile. We continue to co-operate fully with the police."

    “We are working closely with our staff and will support them in reporting to the police should they have any information.”

    In the 1990 interview with Q magazine, Savile admitted “hanging around” the Buckinghamshire hospital into the early hours.

    He told of his pleasure at being alone with the dead and even issued a bizarre unprompted denial that he was a necrophiliac — someone with a sexual attraction to corpses.

    Savile, who died last year at 84, said: “One of my jobs is to take away the deceased. You can look after somebody, be alone with somebody, who has lived a whole lifetime, and I’m just saying goodbye and looking after him.

    “That is a privilege and an honour. Some people get hold of the fact that Jim likes looking after cadavers and say, ‘Aha, Jim’s a necrophiliac!’ I’m not a necrophiliac.”

    Savile’s out-of-the-blue denial echoed similar statements he made insisting he wasn’t a paedophile, years before any accusations were actually made.

    In one documentary, Savile admitted he told interviewers he “hated” children in order to put journalists “off the hunt”.

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