Saturday, 23 March 2013

One Year On for Beyond Survivor #giveaway #childabuse #survivors #book

A year ago today my first book, Beyond Survivor - Rising From the Ashes of Childhood Sexual Abuse was published.

Books two and three are in the pipeline and I hope to get the second published later this year.

I want to thank those who have supported me and my cause to bring more awareness of the facts regarding this subject. Some have tried to silence me but have thus far failed. If my writing helps just one person then it will have been worth it. I suffered in silence and in ignorance for many many years, hopefully others will not have to endure the same.

I would like to offer this book free for the next two weeks in Kindle format. If you would like to receive a copy please email me (link is on the right of the screen).

Kindle format books can also be viewed on other devices and the download is available here free of charge.

Thank you once again. Together we can make a difference.

Ján L Frayne

Friday, 22 March 2013

Tuesday, 19 March 2013

And The World Turns #depression #survivors

It's been some time since I wrote myself on this blog. I apologise. 

Spring may be in the air but I feel trapped in the dark, cold depths of winter. For some time now I have been depressed. This depression does not stem directly from my childhood, more a reaction to the side effects of my childhood and from a realisation of time that has been wasted.

I have been reflecting on my life. Though it has changed for the better in most ways, I still stumble occasionally and when this happens now the fall is from a greater height. 

The past two years since my breakdown have been the most enlightening, the most healing yet also the most painful in many ways. I have learnt much about myself and others. My mind hid the truth from me until I was able to deal with it and no longer be damaged by it.

I stumbled through the last three decades of my time on this planet, often being tripped up and stepped upon by others (frequently those who should have had my best interests at heart.) Others have reached out a hand to guide me or help me up. Some of these have totally surprised and amazed me by their actions and kindness. 

I was blinded for years by a need to succeed, to prove wrong those few that told me my life would never amount to anything. I achieved much and I lost it too. As the person who attacked my character on this blog earlier this year pointed out (in very bad English), I lost my businesses and with them the high flying lifestyle I had come to enjoy. The crazy thing is that I am glad. I have come to learn the true value of life.  I did many wrong things and many things wrongly. I did whatever it took to protect myself and to survive.  I am not perfect and have never claimed to be. Far from it in fact.

Having been attacked online earlier this year opened my eyes further. The individual who did so under different guises has done me a gigantic favour. I forgive them their ignorance, jealousy and stupidity.  I will never forget however. Life has a strange way of coming back and slapping us in the face. 

Going back to my current depressed state.. Reflection is not always healthy, neither is living the past over and over again inside one's head. The past is gone and cannot be changed. What can be changed is our attitude and the way we process the emotions and memories of the past. The past will never vanish, but we can put it somewhere safe. I fell into the same trap I have warned so many to avoid.  I allowed my past control my present once again.

I am deeply sorry if you thought me ignorant, lazy or just rude these past months. I was "warned" by a twitter follower that if I didn't interact with people I would lose them. This person was trying to demand my time and gave ultimatums. I don't want or need people like that in my life or my social stream..

Spring is upon us and I do see a faint light ahead. Please forgive me my silence of late and bear with me as I shake off the dark cold shadows once more.


Sunday, 17 March 2013

Is She Dead or Alive? via @SusanJaneSmith #survivors

Is She Dead or Alive?

I simply still cannot figure out if this poor woman is dead or alive whilst being carried upside down on a pole – like an animal.  In fact, I would never even do this to any animal.  I was so disgusted and distressed when I first came across this picture.  She apparently is being carried by military men in India.
This picture came to my attention when I was looking at a Facebook page for Southall Black Sisters in London.  They had organised a protest outside the London Embassy of India about the rapes in India.  Sadly, there does not seem to have been any media interest in the protest.  I did call The Times newspaper and spoke to a couple of ‘nice’ young men, but got no further.

The barbarity of seeing any human being carried around like this (even if dead) motivated me to send this picture and a press release to the Indian and British Prime Ministers and the international press.  No response whatsoever – why not?  Are you horrified by this image?  Who actually cares that this is going on?

I had the ability to send the photo internationally because I have my own database for the media as I send out press releases regarding my own 20 self help e-books which sell on Amazon around the world.  My books are also available via the major on-line bookstores and my website 

My primary book Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth led to my Little Book Series of Emotional Health For Emotional Wealth including:
Rape Not Sexual Assault
Sexual Abuse & Incest
Physical & Emotional Abuse Hurts the World as Well as The Child
Charming Men and Chauvinists (about domestic violence)
I am a survivor, passionate about inspiring positive change for other people. 
A friend said, as a result of this picture, that men from the ‘emerging’ countries may wear Western style lounge suits and speak English yet it is in no way an indicator that they follow Western ideas about women’s issues.  It looks like I will need to spend the rest of my life providing education regarding the importance of stopping abuse.  Women’s equality still has a long way to go to make that true for all women

Susan Jane Smith, B.Sc.
Counselling in the Forest Publishing
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"Hugs & Emotional Wealth Change the World"
"Pre-Marital MOT: A Relationship Inspection"
"Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth"
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Monday, 11 March 2013

Text and Online Codes - Be Aware and Be Prepared.


Text Codes

This list is for parents and children, and shows ‘short hand’ texting and emailing codes.

It’s ok to check your childs phone and chat logs. Please be aware of some of the phrases and codes used below. Sexual Predators are well aware of these codes. Make sure you are too, keep one step ahead.
^5 = High Five
121 = One to one
143 = I love you
182 = I hate you
2moro = Tomorrow
2nite = Tonight
411 = Information
420 = Marijuana
459 = I love you
4NR = Foreigner
4Q = Fuck you
8 = oral sex
86 = Get rid of
9 = Parent is watching
99 = Parent is no longer watching
A3 = Anyplace, anytime anywhere
AAF = As A Friend
ACORN = A Completely Obsessive Really Nutty Person
ADR = Address
AEAP = As Early As Possible
AFAP = As Far As Possible
AIGHT = Allright
AITR = Adult In The Room
AMAP = As Much As Possible
AML = All My Love
AMRMTYFTS = All my roommates thank you for the show
A/S/L – age, sex, location
B4N = Bye for now
banana = Penis
BF = Boyfriend
BFF = Best friend forever
BITCH = Basically in the clear homey
BJ = Blow job
BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend
BZ = Busy
BRB = Be right back
BTW = Back to work
CICYHW = Can I copy your homework
CM = Call me
C-P = Sleepy
C/S = Change subject
COS = Change of subject
CBJ = Covered blow job
CD9 = Code 9, parents are around
CRB = Come right back
CRBT = Crying really big tears
CT = Can’t talk
CTC = Care to chat?
CU = See you
CUL8R = See you later
CUNS = See you in school
CUOL = See you online
CYE = Check your e-mail
CYO = See you online
CYT = See you tomorrow
DF = Dear friend
DGA = Don’t go anywhere
DH = Dear husband
DW = Dear wife
DIKU = Do I know you?
DL = Down Low (texts) Download (in context of attachments)
DLTM = Don’t lie to me
DNBL8 = Do not be late
DOC = Drug of choice
DOE = Depends on experience
DP = Domestic partner
DUM = Do you masturbate?
DURS = Damn you are sexy
DUSL = Do you scream loud?
DWB = Don’t write back
DWPKOTL = Deep wet passionate kiss on the lips
DYHAB = Do you have a boyfriend
DYHAG = Do you have a girlfriend
EMA = E-mail address
EML = E-mail me later
EMSG = E-mail message
F2F = Face to face
FAB = Features Attributes Benefits
FB = Fuck buddy
FILF = Father I’d like to fuck
FMLTWIA = Fuck me like the whore I am
FMUTA = Fuck me up the ass
FOAF = Friend of a friend
FTF = Face to face
FWB = Friends with benefits
FYF = From your friend
GTG = Got to go
G2G = Got to go
GAP = Got a pic? (pic = picture)
GBH = Great Big Hug
GF = Girlfriend
GLBT = Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transgender
GLG = Good looking girl
GLB = Good looking boy
GNOC = Get naked on cam
GOS = Gay or straight
GUD = Geographically undesirable
GYPO – get your pants off
H&K = Hugs and kisses
H4Y = Hot for you
HBIB = Hot but inappropriate boy
I&I = Intercourse and Inebriation
IBTC = Itty bitty titty committee
IDK = I don’t know
IF/IB = In the front or in the back
IIT = Is it tight?
ILF/MD = I love female/male dominance
ILU = I love you
ILY = I love you
IRL = In real life
IWSN – i want sex now
ITS – intense text sex
IWALU = I will always love you
J/O = Jacking off
KFU = kisses for you
KFY = Kiss for you
K4Y = Kiss for you
kitty = Vagina
KK = Kiss kiss
KOTC = Kiss on the cheek
KOTL = Kiss on the lips
KPC – keep parents clueless
KWSTA = Kiss with serious tongue action
L8R = Later
LB? = Like bondage?
LDR = Long distance relationship
LF = Let’s fuck (pedophile lingo would be Little Friend)
LHOS – Let’s have online sex
LHSO = Let’s have sex online
LKITR = Little kid in the room
LOL = Laugh out loud/lots of laughs/lots of love
LMAO = Laugh my ass off
LMFAO = Laugh my f*cking ass off
LMIRL – Let’s meet in real life
LTTIC = Look the teacher is coming
LUSM = Love you so much
LY = Love you
LY4E = Love you forever
LYWAMH = Love you with all my heart
MA = Mature audience
MILF = Mother I’d like to fuck
MIRL = Meet in real life
MorF = Male or Female
MOOS = Member of opposite sex
MOSS = Member of same sex
MOS = Mom over shoulder
MPFB = My personal fuck buddy
MSNUW = Mini-skirt no underwear
MTLA = My true love always
MUAH or MWAH = *it’s the sound of a kiss*
MUSM = Miss you so much
NP = Nosy parents
N/T = No text
NIFOC = Nude in front of computer
NRN = No reply necessary
OLL = Online love
OMG = Oh my god
OMFG = Oh my fucking god
P = Partner
P&C = Private and confidential
POS = Parents over shoulder
PIR = Parents in room
P911 = Parent alert
PA = Parent alert
PAW = Parents are watching
PAL = Parents are listening
PBB = Parent behind back
PHAT = Pretty hot and tempting
PLOS = Parent looking over shoulder
POM = Parent over my shoulder
PRON = Porn
pr0n = Porn (with a number 0 for O)
PRW = Parents are watching
QT = Cutie Q2C = Quick to cum
RL = Real life
RLF = Real life friend
RNN = Reply not necessary
ROFL = Roll on floor laughing
ROTFL = Roll on the floor laughing
ROFLMAO = Roll on floor laughing my ass off
RPG = Roll playing games
RU? = Are you?
RU/18 = Are you over 18?
STFU = Shut the fuck up
TTYL = Talk to you later
TTFN = Tata for now
TAW = Teachers are watching
TDTM = Talk dirty to me
TM = Trust Me
TMI = Too much information
TT = Big tease
TYVM = Thank you very much
U = You
U UP? = Are you up?
UR = You are or Your
WTF = What the fuck
WYFM = Will you fuck me?
WYRN = What’s your real name
WYCM = Will you call me
XOX = Kiss Hug Kiss
XTC = Ecstacy
Y = Yes or Why?
YDKM = You don’t know me
YIWGP = Yes, I will go private
YW = You’re welcome

This list was found on Facebook and many other similar lists are available online.  


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