Monday, 23 March 2020

Beyond Survivor - Rising from the ashes of childhood sexual abuse

Why "Beyond Survivor" ?

I have survived much in the last four decades. From abuse in all forms, ill health, living on the streets, to business bankruptcy and personal financial ruin. I have found my way through and out of all these. In the process I found my voice!

Due to the way society views abuse very few men feel able to speak about what happened to them and many live a life in the shadows of the abuse they endured. I hope to be able to make these men see that they can speak out and seek help. There is life after abuse. Being a survivor is one heck of an achievment. Getting beyond surviving to the point of thriving is within the grasp of every survivor, male or female. We should all get to "Beyond Survivor".
After much encouragement I decided to publish my first book. The book is a mix of poetry, prose and advice, some of which has been previously published on this website. Much is new work not released before.
Without the support and encouragement of my online friends I would not be doing any of this. I dedicate this first book to you all. Thank you!
This is the first book in what will become the "Beyond Survivor" series.
I am in the middle of the next two books. One will be a self help guide for male survivors of sexual abuse and the other will be a novel based on my own life and experiences.
About Me
I am a male survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA). I love words, written, spoken, and unspoken. For so many years my voice was not heard, I expressed myself through my writing.
As soon as I was able to read and write, I immersed myself in books. I was able to escape through the writings of others and eventually through my own attempts. Writing enabled me to express the pain, and the shame, of what I experienced. It later helped me to cleanse myself, to heal through the medium of writing.

I seem to have lived an early life surrounded by abuse of some sort. At a very early age, I was sexually abused by my grandfather. This went on for about twelve years. Others were invited to use me as they wished. There was also mental, emotional, and physical abuse from other family members. My body was almost broken, my mind fractured, but no one seemed to notice. I grew up thinking it was my fault, I deserved it.

Male survivors live within a society where a stigma surrounds the abuse of boys. It took me a long time to find my voice, to be able to share the horrors that tormented me for over three decades. I hope my words help you to understand.

Available to order now through

AuthorHouse U.K and AuthorHouse U.S.A

Amazon UK and Amazon U.S.A

Interview by Dr Nicola Davies Health Psychology Consultancy

Facebook Page "Beyond Survivor"

Wednesday, 28 January 2015

Male victims of child sexual abuse social/economic impact

Men who have been sexually abused in childhood are twice as likely to be out of work due to sickness and disability, a major ESRI study reveals.

It is the first research into the economic impact of abuse on the lives of adult survivors and confirms the knock-on effects for household income are "real and substantial".
The impact of child sexual abuse on women's employment was found to be much smaller and not statistically significant - but this may be due to fact that it was older age groups, who would have had lower workforce participation, who were the focus of research.
The findings are revealed in a new joint study by the ESRI and Trinity College which drew on data from the Irish Longitudinal Study on Ageing (TILDA), involving 8,500 people over 50 who are living in Ireland.
The people involved suffered the abuse more than three decades earlier but its lasting impact is now affecting them financially.
They were interviewed between 2009 and 2011 about a wide range of issues such as income, wealth, job status and health. The analysis in the unique study may have particular use in assessing the compensation due to victims who have been abused.
ESRI researcher, Prof Alan Barrett said: "Through a self-reported questionnaire, they were also asked questions about sexual abuse suffered before the age of 18.
"The survey recorded a rate of abuse of 5.6pc in men and 6.7pc in women but this may be an underestimate given that people are reluctant to report the issue."
The results showed:
* 17pc of men who were abused were not working as a result of being sick or permanently disabled. This compared to 8pc for those who were not abused.
* 14pc of female survivors did not have job for the same reason - compared to 6pc among those who had not been abused.
The report pointed out that it is known from other research that abuse is associated with depression and that it is linked to breaks in labour force participation.
"We used statistical methods to disentangle possible links between abuse, sickness, disability and depression," it adds.
For men, the results suggest that survivors are three times more likely to be sick and disabled compared to other men, even when accounting for the impact of psychological difficulties.
The findings on household incomes showed they were 34pc lower for men who were abused in childhood. They were also twice as likely to be living alone compared to other men who were not abused.
The authors say the results highlighted the very long-term effects in terms of labour force participation and incomes.
"Our analysis was based on people aged 50 and over and the abuse occurred before they were aged 18," they said.
"Hence, it has been at least 32 years since the abuse was experienced.
"A labour force disadvantage among the victims is observed even when we control for depression and anxiety.
"This suggests that the impacts of childhood abuse are complex and multifaceted.
"It is more difficult to identify a link between childhood abuse and working life for women because of the particular age group," they said.
As economists, the authors were able to shed light on the job prospects of survivors but were "not qualified to say much more."
However, they say "one implication of these results arises in the context of compensation for survivors. The results here provide a quantification of the economic impacts on individuals of having experienced child sexual abuse."
While compensation should cover factors others than economic,it "seems that the economic impacts are real and substantial," they add.
The research is among the first of its kind untaken internationally and is important both in Ireland and abroad.
Previously, research has tended to be undertaken by researchers who had expertise in health and psychology.


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