Due to the bravery of Dr. Jerry Light at First Baptist Church Selma, Al., I am now able to provide more details regarding my situation.
I’m David Pittman – For 30 years I’ve been keeping a secret that almost killed me. From around the time I was 12 till I was about 15 I was molested by my youth minister at Rehoboth Baptist Church in Tucker, GA. His name is Frankie Wiley, full name Franklin Andrew Wiley. To this day he walks free and up until recently he was serving as an associate minister at Trinity Baptist Church in Ashburn, Ga., due to the pathetic statute of limitation laws.
In 2006, I found him serving as youth minister at Jodeco Road Baptist Church, where Jerry Light was the Pastor. I contacted Pastor Light, told him my story and he and the Chairman of Deacons confronted Frankie. Frankie admitted to both that he had molested me. They fired him on the spot. He then went back to get help from a family at a previous church in Flowery Branch, Ga. When they were made aware of the circumstances, they too told him to leave. He returned to his hometown and got a job with the schools as a substitute teacher and when I told the superintendent there, he fired him. I continue to track his activity with children and if you look at his Facebook or MySpace pages they are filled with preteens and teenagers as he has a whole new world of potential victims.
It’s important that you know how he operates. He invites 2-3 boys over to his house for sleepovers. He keeps 1 or 2 in another room and has the other boy stay with him in his bed. This is where the molestation takes place.
These vultures go after others like me who came from a family of divorce or worse. They take advantage of the vulnerability; simply wanting attention from a male role model. This is their “play” and how it eventually leads to the abuse. Unfortunately, I’m not the only victim. I’ve been told by 3 others, several more say “they can’t talk about it” and God only knows how many there actually are-which is why I am writing this. The National Crime Statistics say “an uncaught child molester has approximately 117 victims.” And one young man, can no longer speak at all-he died in June. Because of the shame and guilt from being molested by Frankie Wiley, he took drugs to numb the pain, the drugs lowered his ability to make proper decisions, and in the end it cost him his life. The blood of his death is on the hands of Frankie Wiley.
Since the state of GA has a pathetic statute of limitations on child rape, I am unable to bring him to justice. I called Dr. Kenneth Keene at the Baptist Convention to inform him of this pedophile using his church as a haven for hunting. His response was to pray for me and say “sorry but each church acts separately and there is nothing we can do.” After our two conversations, I wanted to tell him that Frankie had moved churches, but he wouldn’t take my calls or emails. It appears the Baptists are following in the footsteps of the Catholic Church. They prefer to cover-up rather than own up to the evil within.
How many other adults out there have suffered this atrocity and are unable to bring their abusers to justice due to the insufficient laws held by almost every state in this land. And these predators know this and count on those of us abused to not be able to say something until it is legally too late.
When Dr. Light contacted the pastor of Trinity Baptist with verification of Frankie’s molestation, all he said he would do was to bring it to the church. While Frankie is no longer “on staff”, he is still active with the youth. What they fail to understand is these predators NEVER stop until they are caught.
The elders at Trinity are either too ignorant or too negligent to protect them.
I have started an advocacy group that will help others like me who were robbed of their innocence and struggle every day with a way to stay alive. To fight the urge to seek out vengeance on the person who killed their childhood. Follow me on twitter @Together_WeHeal and at: http://www.causes.com/causes/640477-together-we-heal – The other reason why I am asking all of my friends to join is because survivors of molestation and abuse will seldom speak out…but they will read in private if they see helpful sites like these posted on your wall…you may never know who you are helping, but trust me…you will be helping…I know because it took me almost 30 years to finally acknowledge and address what happened to me…and that allowed me to begin healing…….
My childhood voice was strangled by the rope of molestation. My assailant is free (for now), but with your help other victims will have the courage to come forward in time to incarcerate these predators the same way they have trapped their victims—having to relive the crime that keeps them quiet, that keeps them inside their minds, that even costs some of them their lives. So many have committed suicide because they could not handle the trauma, others (including myself) turned to drugs and alcohol to numb their pain (many times ending in overdoses). And probably the vast majority who are never able to have any kind of life. No loving relationships, no lasting friendships, no children to show true parental love – all due to the pain caused by the crime of molestation.
I was told by a GBI investigator that a pedophile is like a serial killer that leaves his victims alive.
I believe that most accurately describes a pedophile.
Frankie served as a youth minister at the following churches from 1981 to 2011 – if you or anyone you know have concerns, please contact me.
Rehoboth Baptist, Tucker, Ga.
Second Avenue Baptist, Rome, Ga.
A Baptist church in Flowery Branch, Ga.
Jodeco Road Baptist, Stockbridge, Ga.
Trinity Baptist, Ashburn, Ga.
He also worked as a substitute teacher at the local school system in Ashburn, Ga., sometime around 2009-2011?
If you or anyone you know has been molested by Frankie Wiley or by anyone, please reach out to someone, things are different now, you WILL be believed, you are NOT alone. Please, reach out…there are people you can trust now.
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Please visit our website at
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This man and the institutions that continue to hire him need to be brought to justice.
You are not alone my friend.
Good Luck and Peace
PH
Please visit our web site at
whitetowerhealing.org
This man and the institutions that continue to give him access to children need to be brought to justice.
See our story my friend and know that you arenot alone and fight back/
Good luck and peace,
PH
This is outrageous! It is all I can say!
I am a single mother of four (two boys and two girls) and I got goosebumps after reading this. I and my situation are ideal for a pedophile. I am happy that you shared this information. It has heightened my awareness!
Thank u phil for your words of support, and I could not agree more...which is why we r currently searching for a civil litigator who will help us bring some manner of justice since the criminal statutes have run. Pls let us know if u know of someone..and thank u, again.
Hi mariann, I am so encouraged to hear that my story is helping parents. Hopefully armed w this info u can better protect ur kids...remember, 90-95% of ALL child sexual abuse happens at the hands of someone we know and trust.
Pedophiles push drugs and alcohol and cigarettes onto their victims. They push their victims away from their friends and family in an effort to isolate them. Unfortunately they get into positions of influence and power, thanks to their powerful underground networking.Worse, they have gotten into the judicial system occupying positions as prosecutors and judges; wonder why so few prosecution?
Hi Dave, Your story brought me to tears. It seems we never get over the shock that child molestation continues to happen and that pedophiles room as free as if they were innocent. Your incredible courage in coming forward with your story, tracking this man and reporting regarding every area where he has been is not only commendable but admirable. The world needs more David Pittman. You are a hero. Thank you for all that you do.
hugs, Margie
Hi David,
Thank you for having the courage to speak out while others feel unable to speak.
Thank you for providing the insights into how pedophiles pray on the vulnerable. This knowledge is so valuable for both parents and children to be armed with.
But most of all thank you for being a survivor and providing an example to the countless victims who find it hard to lead a worthwhile life.
Kind regards
Mike
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