Saturday, 14 March 2015

I will NOT be silent #childabuse



Recently I was told that I put myself "out there" too much, that I obviously wasn't over the effects of the years of abuse. Apparently I was weakening my position by sharing so much of myself and devoting so much of my time to raising awareness and fighting for those who are unable to speak out.

My response was to laugh at the ignorance of the person who said this to me. 

If men and women who have found their chains broken and have the strength to speak up do not do so, then who will! 

I am proud to call myself a survivor. I have become far more than that in the last few years though. I am a thriver. I have cast aside the shackles and the gags and I speak out. I tell it as it is. I do not do this to bring glory upon myself, far from it. I do it to spread knowledge and in so doing I hope to create a better understanding of not only how childhood sexual abuse effects the victim, but also what signs to look out for and how to help the victims "heal".

Ignorance and silence are the friends of the abusers along with fear and shame. 

My voice is only a small one. I can only ever hope to reach a very small percentage of the population. If I can help one person to recover, if I can stop one more child being used, I will. 

Knowledge is power. We all need to learn the signs of abuse, and its effects on the innocent. 

Will I stop spreading this knowledge because it offends some people? No, I will most certainly not.  If what I write makes you uncomfortable you have two choices. 

1 - Read, learn, be aware, be proactive. Understand and try to empathise. Take the knowledge and spread it to help others. 

2 - Turn your backs, if your conscience allows it. Pretend it doesn't and couldn't affect you. Be ignorant, be an accomplice to child abuse by your inaction. 

There is NO EXCUSE not to support victims of childhood sexual abuse, whatever their sex, their colour, their religious views, or social standing. To do anything else, to turn your backs or deny them justice is tantamount to collusion with the perpetrators of sexual crimes. 

Sheltering or protecting a Paedophile means you may as well have been holding the innocent child down yourselves.  

Fear is not an excuse, neither is family pride. A child is NEVER to blame for being the victim of sexual crimes. NEVER.

No... I will not shut up and go and hide back in the shadows. The past had a devastating effect on my life, but it is indeed past. It has changed me, as has the therapy to get to where I am today. I have taken away its power to control my present and my future. So can you. 







4 comments:

James Quercus said...

I have been told the same things. I recently created a blog to share my stories but discovered I am still afraid of my abuser. He has indeed shown great power, or at least perceived power. That is the power of money. I went to the authorities with my story two years ago. He was arrested and spent one afternoon in jail. His bond was very large. He was indited and a hearing was set for charges. The District Attorney dismissed the case due to the crime taking place while current laws were not in effect. The records have been sealed to the public by the abuser, of course with a hefty payment in lawyers fees. These people will go to any length to cover up their crimes. Why shouldn't we go to any length to expose them?!!

No Name said...

We all must play our roles, and no one should be kept quiet. Your post is a call for integrity and courage. You already are setting the example. I admire you.

bamingshen said...

Good on both of you!! Encouraging to hear t.of two men who are speaking out! Without voices to be raised in truth, you may have been another statistic creating more statistics! Thank you!.

Anonymous said...

My son is an abuse victim. He's 7! I hope he's stays strong and encourages others when he is grown like you do. His father thinks he should be over it by now.... Its only been 2 years since disclosure and 18months in counsoling. His father doesn't seem to understand it's a lifetime of healing. Keep doing what you do and don't let anyone tell you anything different.


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