Your Inner Child #ChildAbuse #Therapy

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Everyone has a inner child but for some they are more apparent than others, this is because when someone has gone through trauma at a young age, the child can't cope with what is happening so he/she goes somewhere deep inside and hides away for their own protection whilst another part of you takes over from that child. As you get older and go through more and more bad experiences the body breaks into more parts, these parts of you are called the inner child.

The part that doesn't want to grow up and likes to play still and has immature emotions and ways, this is your inner child. As an adult you become more aware of your inner child because part of you has grown up with age but that little you who had to hide deep inside all those years ago will one day want to come out when they feel safe to do so,

This can sound quite an experience to go through but it can be an enjoyable part of the healing journey and also fun, you can discover your inner child in many ways as detailed under Working with your inner child.

Take some time to get to know your inner child and learn to comfort them and help them to grow up with you; it's the right path for inner healing.

Getting To Know Your Inner Child 

This part can be fun and rewarding but also very sad and difficult as you get to know your inner child you will understand gradually things that happened to you as a child, the good and unfortunately the bad too.

Just keep reminding the little you that you are safe now and your adult you will look after little you.

As you get to know your little one you can learn to love yourself and you will soon realise that the abuse that happened to you was in fact not your fault.

As you start to remember or re-visit the past make sure you are with someone who can support you and that you feel safe, try and not be alone as this can lead to damaging effects on you, you have all ready been hurt enough and you don't need any more pain to have to experience.

Take your time and enjoy getting to know the little you and eventually when you have got to know her/him you can begin to heal the damaged past years.

Healing Your Inner Child

Healing your inner child takes a lot of time and needs to be done with great care, it can also be fun, you have to remember that this inner child has been very hurt and traumatized but he/she is a part of you.... a big part of you that holds the key to those parts of your life that you thought were missing.

It is possible to heal the inner child with the right support and you have to want to heal him/her and get to know them, it won’t be easy and needs to be taken at your own pace.

To heal the inner child you will have to visit parts of your past that you might not want to but all the time reassuring the little you that they are safe now and that you as an adult will protect them.

There are lots of resources and books etc for self help on healing the inner child or there is therapy. Working with a therapist you can write to your inner child and learn to let him/her have a voice so that you can understand your little you so that healing is possible.

Take time getting to know your inner child and accept that you have one so that you can work together. Remember your little one has been locked away for years after going through a lot of pain.

He/she needs to be loved and to feel safe and cared for and accepted so they can grow up with you 

Working With Your Inner Child

Once you have discovered your Inner child you can learn to relate to him/her and then start to work with them,

It is best to work with a therapist who understands the inner child and there are some books you can work through too.

Things you can do yourself?

You can write letters to your inner child and get him/her to reply, this way you can get to know one another.
You can let your inner child play... play dough is fun you can also get rid of a lot of stress fondling with play dough, try and remember what your favourite games were as a child and play some . This can be fun and healing.
If you ever feel your inner child is insecure and lonely you could try wrapping yourself up in a comfy blanket and rocking yourself telling your little one inside its ok.

No Cure For Paedophiles

Why I believe paedophiles can NEVER be cured, says chemical castration expert

Any day now, two convicted paedophiles will slip quietly into a psychiatrist's consulting rooms and submit themselves to an experiment which could revolutionise the way Britain deals with child sex offenders.

Such is the sensitivity of this highly controversial government trial that we are not permitted to know the identities of these guinea pigs, nor even the vaguest details about their crimes.

Assuming that they are males - like the vast majority of the 5,000-plus paedophiles in our jails - they will be given, via injection or tablet, a powerful drug to reduce their sex-drive to levels found in pre-pubescent boys.

The hope is that by curtailing their physical ability to sexually assault children, their perverted and predatory instincts will also be suppressed.

At a time when child sex offences are growing at an alarming rate, it is tempting to accept the view that every possible deterrent deserves to be explored.

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And yet, having followed the progress of experiments with so-called chemical castration in the other parts of Europe and the United States, I fear this latest initiative, reported over the weekend, is not only doomed to failure, but could have quite disastrous consequences.

The decision to 'emasculate' convicted child sex criminals with drugs was taken by John Reid, during his last few months as Home Secretary. If he intended to cement his tough-on-crime image before leaving office, then the move had the desired effect.

Reading behind those 'Castrate 'em!' banner headlines, however, the prisoners' rights lobby were pleasantly reassured.

The treatment (either by Androcur, a pill which counteracts testosterone, or Leuprorelin, an injection which 'switches off' the pituitary gland that produces the hormone) would be administered on a strictly voluntary basis. Moreover, it would be stopped immediately on the offender's request.

The use of powerful drugs to quell sexual urges is nothing new, of course. It dates back to Nazi Germany, whose scientists eventually abandoned this painless, easily reversible, punishment in favour of an altogether more permanent solution: compulsory castration by scalpel.

According to many leading child sex abuse psychologists I have spoken to, however, Hitler's sinister doctors over-looked one crucial factor, which continues to be ignored or misunderstood today.

It is that simply depriving a serial sexual predator of the most obvious means of carrying out an assault is almost never enough to deter him.

Despite lacking the ability to gain an erection, he will still experience all the disturbing fantasies and compulsions which drive him to prey on children, and feel impelled to act on them.

Indeed, compounded by his sense of frustration, this often makes the paedophile even more dangerous than before.

The complexities were explained to me by veteran child sex expert Ray Wire, who has helped police to get inside the minds of evil child killers such as Fred and Rosemary West and Robert Black.

"In the great majority of cases, castration alone - by whatever means - simply isn't effective in curbing a paedophile's behaviour, because controlling high sexual drive is only part of the problem," he says.

"These men are not simply an out-of-control penis. There are other, deep-seated issues which drive them, such as terrible anger and misguided self-righteousness.

"Abhorrent as it sounds, many are actually convinced they really love children, and that what they are doing is right. No chemical is going to alter these feelings, and the Home Office needs to understand that from the outset."

As a reminder of how experiments with castration can go horribly wrong, Mr Wire recalls the disturbing case of 'Tom', a former Yorkshire miner who abused more than 30 children in a reign of terror spanning 40 years.

In 1993, he went on television to plead for the right to be surgically castrated, and later paid £1,200 for the operation.

At the time, the story seemed almost uplifting: proof that even the most wretched paedophile was not beyond redemption. If anyone had bothered to chart Tom's progress, however, they would have taken a different view.

For soon after his high-profile emasculation, Mr Wire was called to Milton Keynes, where police had discovered the miner with a boy of ten, whom he had spirited away from his family in London.

"He may not have been able to have sex any more, but he claimed to have found pure love with the child," Mr Wire recalls. "Make of that what you will."

The quest for a 'cure' for child sex attackers is littered with such salutary episodes - and yet, in early 2005, I was in Paris to watch the French government embark on an experiment even more radical than John Reid's.

Faced with an explosion of paedophilic offences which has seen the numbers in jail for child sex crimes soar to 25 per cent of the entire prison population, the then Justice Minister Dominique Perben announced that 48 offenders would be removed from the penal system.

Rather than being incarcerated or placed on probation, they would agree to undergo a course of chemical castration. Their behaviour would be carefully monitored and, assuming the results were positive, hundreds more would be freed on licence.

At a psychiatric hospital on the outskirts of Paris, I interviewed one of the first volunteers, a softly spoken electrician, aged 46, from a well-to-do family.

He had been abusing children for 16 years, and might have continued to do so if two victims, who never forgot how he violated them, had not reported him when they reached the age of 20.

Ordinarily, he would have been in preventative custody, but had won his freedom by agreeing to have regular injections of a chemical sex-drive cosh.

His supervising psychiatrist, the eminent Dr Bernard Cordier, seemed pleased with his 'progress'.

Yet during our talk, he admitted eerily that he still harboured sick fantasies about debasing and defiling small children, and still sometimes prowled his old haunts, "looking but not touching" - or so he claimed.

Incredibly, no one was responsible for monitoring his movements, and there were no restrictions on him.

Despite the obvious perils, the great French experiment was permitted to carry on unchecked for a further 18 months. Then, last summer, it sparked one of the most embarrassing judicial scandals in recent French history and was hastily reversed.

The disaster that many less liberal Gallic psychologists and politicians had long predicted came when Francis Evrard, a 61-year- old recidivist pervert, showed how frighteningly easy it is for anyone with a modicum of cunning to buck the system.

Evrard had been jailed for 18 years for a catalogue of terrible crimes. Towards the end of his sentence, however, he complained to the prison doctor - who had no idea he was a child molester - that he was suffering erectile dysfunction. Incredibly, he was prescribed Viagra.

A few months later, Evrard was released from prison on condition that he underwent treatment to reduce his sex drive. But he used the Viagra to counteract the drugs and boost his testosterone, then kidnapped and raped a five-year-old boy.

Appalled by a case that has become a cause celebre for France's hard-line politicians, President Nicolas Sarkozy is now leading a sharp about-turn in France's policy towards sex offenders.

Instead of releasing offenders early, he is building a special prison-hospital in which the most ruthless can be held even after completing their sentences, until they can demonstrate that they are safe to return to the community.

The Home Office insists that Britain's guinea pigs will be subjected to far greater scrutiny, and promises they will not be able to volunteer for treatment in return for early parole or shorter sentences.

This, at least, is comforting news. But wouldn't our children be infinitely safer if, instead of dabbling with this failed ideology, the Government accepted that some people are simply beyond redemption?

By DAVID JONES

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