Christmas Can Kill

 

Christmas is coming...... I used to loved Christmas, the build up, the sharing, time with friends and family. Almost every year as an adult I end up depressed....

It has improved over the last few years. Acknowledging the fact it exists, and then sharing that knowledge is so important. I know now the reasons why I struggle over Christmas.. A need to please, wanting everything to go well, I plan and prepare and plot too much. The grandfather was born on Christmas Day... That used to really bug me. Gifts I received for Christmas used to vanish soon afterwards and I'd get the blame. In truth he sold them to pay for his Whisky habit...

I almost got into that "habit" myself as an adult. Drink was such an easy escape, then mornings came and feelings of guilt, shame and the hangover. I hid this for years. It was always worse at Christmas. Now I enjoy an occasional drink, but stick to the milder varieties and rarely get drunk.

I spent a couple of Christmases totally alone, not seeing anyone. I hated it and now if I hear of anyone spending the day alone I invite them over. Christmas is no time to be alone.

‘Tis the season to be jolly..... Apparently December is not only the month where depression is most likely to hit you but it also has the highest rate of suicides. It’s the month where family and friends should be getting together, where you plan your Christmas and decorate the home etc.

Many things can trigger deeper depression in December...

Loneliness, bereavement and grieving, failed business or loss of a job. The breakup of a relationship. Ill health generally.  All likely to set you on the road to depression at any time, but worse at this time of year.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D) adds to the equation. I love Christmas but hate the short days and cold wet weather..

It's the most wonderful time of the year...

Coping with depression is bad enough, but trying to do so when everyone else is extra happy makes it harder to reach out, to ask for help. We don't want to stand out from the crowd so instead we cut ourselves off. Not wanting to drag others down into our depression we stand alone, and watch from the sidelines.
Instances of depression are higher in those who have suffered trauma in their earlier lives. At a time of year where people are getting together to celebrate, those with depression are most likely to feel more isolated. Unable to join in, to embrace the season of good will, they sink further and further into a pit of gloom.
Alone in crowd. I have often felt most lonely when there are people hustling and bustling around me, laughing and joking. Not wanting to spoil their festive fun I would either paint a false smile on my face or just vanish into the shadows. Christmas can be a very stressful time for anyone. For those prone to depression it can be a nightmare.

Though there has been more publicity over the issue of Christmas depression in recent years, it is still not understood. The most important thing you can do is tell someone how you feel. Reach out before the season starts and share. Communication is much easier now. Social media and the internet generally helps bring people together. Telephone someone, talk to someone. See your Doctor or Priest, just don't sit at home alone. There is no shame in admitting that you get depressed and you may be suprised to find others feeling the same way. All to often those who find themselves getting depressed do nothing about it.
Depression can deeply affect your life. It can sneak up and disrupt your work, your home life, your health generally and can lead you to neglect those around you that need you well. Grab a hold of the problem and do something about it.The most important thing is to reach out, ask for help, talk to someone.

Don't let depression destroy your Christmas or that of those around you. The power to do something about it is in your hands. Do you want to become another statistic? Please remember there is no shame in asking for help. This is the season of goodwill to all men and if Scrooge can do it then so can you. 

If you are prone to Christmas depression then reach out, tell someone. Seek help if needs be.

If you know someone who appears to be slipping into a depression or who always gets the winter blues reach out to them. It won't kill you and you might just save a life.

Be nice to yourself, be kind to yourself. The greatest gift is that of love so remember to love yourself too.

The Effects of Decades of ReTraumatisation Following Prolonged Abuse and its Impact on the AutoImmune System

Decades of retraumaitsation following prolonged abuse can lead to severe, lifelong physical and psychological effects, often resulting in complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD), chronic health conditions, and fundamental changes in brain function and sense of self. 

Psychological and Emotional Effects

The cumulative impact of repeated trauma is more severe than a single event, leading to widespread dysfunction and specific mental health disorders: 

• Complex PTSD (C-PTSD): A primary outcome, characterized by traditional PTSD symptoms (flashbacks, nightmares, hyperarousal, avoidance) along with deep-seated issues in emotional regulation, self-perception (feelings of worthlessness or shame), and relationships.
• Severe Comorbid Conditions: High rates of co-occurring mental health issues, including major depression, anxiety disorders (generalized anxiety, social anxiety, panic attacks), dissociative disorders, personality disorders, and psychosis (hallucinations and delusions).
• Emotional Dysregulation: Difficulty managing feelings, leading to emotional numbing, irritability, rage, or feeling out of control.
• Distorted Self-Perception: Internalizing harmful messages from the abuse results in a negative self-concept, profound shame, guilt, and a lack of a cohesive identity.
• Loss of Trust and Security: The world is perceived as unsafe and unpredictable, and others as untrustworthy, making it difficult to form or maintain healthy relationships.
• Suicidal Ideation and Self-Harm: A significantly increased risk of suicidal thoughts, attempts, and self-injurious behaviors as maladaptive coping mechanisms for intense emotional pain.
• Substance Use Disorders: High vulnerability to using alcohol or drugs to numb emotional pain and suffering. 

Physical and Neurological Effects

Chronic stress and retraumatization lead to long-term changes in the body's stress response system and brain structure: 

• Neurobiological Changes: The brain's alarm systems (e.g., amygdala) become hyperactive, while areas responsible for memory, learning, and emotional regulation (hippocampus and prefrontal cortex) may be impaired.
• Chronic Health Conditions: A strong correlation exists between prolonged trauma and a wide range of physical illnesses, including cardiovascular disease, chronic pain (migraines, fibromyalgia), digestive disorders, respiratory issues, arthritis, and lowered immune function.
• Hyperarousal and Sleep Disturbances: Persistent hypervigilance (always being on guard for danger), exaggerated startle responses, insomnia, and nightmares are common and enduring symptoms. 

Functional and Social Effects

Survivors often face challenges in daily life and social interactions: 

• Functional Impairment: Difficulties with concentration, memory, and decision-making, impacting educational attainment and employment stability.
• Interpersonal Problems: Impaired ability to develop secure attachments, leading to struggles in friendships, intimate relationships, and parenting.
• Vulnerability to Further Victimization: Survivors are at a higher risk of being revictimized in the future, as established patterns and coping mechanisms can inadvertently place them in risky situations or relationships. 

In essence, the ongoing nature of prolonged abuse and subsequent retraumatization profoundly alters a person's entire physical and psychological architecture, making the recovery process complex and highlighting the need for trauma-informed care that acknowledges the cumulative impact of their experiences. 

Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) and autoimmune diseases are linked through a dysregulated stress response, leading to a pro-inflammatory state that can increase the risk and severity of autoimmune conditions. Chronic stress from trauma can impair the body's normal stress control, alter immune function, and trigger inflammation, which is a key factor in the development of autoimmune diseases. 

How C-PTSD can affect the immune system

• Stress response dysregulation: Trauma can disrupt the normal functioning of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis, which regulates the body's stress response.
• Inflammatory state: This dysregulation can lead to a persistent pro-inflammatory state in the body, where the immune system becomes overactive.
• Hormonal changes: Chronic stress can lead to changes in stress hormones like cortisol, which typically helps to balance immune function. Impaired control over cortisol can lead to increased inflammation.
• Immune cell changes: Some studies show that people with PTSD have higher circulating T-cell lymphocytes and hyperreactive immune responses, which are biological markers consistent with inflammatory disorders. 

How this link affects autoimmune disease risk

• Increased risk: There is a growing body of evidence from cohort studies and meta-analyses that links PTSD, including C-PTSD, to an increased risk of developing autoimmune diseases such as rheumatoid arthritis, systemic lupus erythematosus, and inflammatory bowel disease.
• Potential for co-morbidity: C-PTSD and autoimmune diseases are frequently co-morbid, meaning they often occur together.
• Exacerbated symptoms: The pro-inflammatory state associated with C-PTSD may not only increase the risk of developing an autoimmune disease but can also contribute to poorer treatment outcomes and accelerated disease progression for those who already have one. 

Important considerations

• Causation vs. association: While there is a strong association, research is ongoing to fully establish a direct causal link, noting that other factors like genetics can play a role.
• Treatment implications: Successful treatment of PTSD symptoms may help control immune system changes and reduce the risk of developing related disorders, though current therapies are still being studied for their ability to reverse the long-term somatic consequences of trauma. 

PTSD is associated with an increased risk of developing Sjögren's syndrome, and stress is linked to the onset and exacerbation of Sjögren's syndrome. The relationship is complex, as severe PTSD symptoms can increase the risk of autoimmune diseases, and stressful life events often precede the onset of Sjögren's symptoms. Both conditions can also occur together, and the physical and mental health of patients with Sjögren's is significantly impacted by anxiety and depression. 

Connection between PTSD and Sjögren's syndrome

• Increased risk: PTSD is linked to a higher risk of developing autoimmune diseases, including Sjögren's syndrome.
• Stress and onset: Major stressful life events have been reported to precede the onset of Sjögren's symptoms in many patients.
• Severity correlation: Some studies suggest that the severity of PTSD symptoms may be associated with the risk of developing an autoimmune disease.
• Shared pathways: Both conditions share links to stress-related disorders and can affect the body's immune and nervous systems. 

Co-occurrence and impact

• Mental health impact: Patients with Sjögren's frequently report high levels of anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues, which can be an early manifestation of the autoimmune process itself, not just a reaction to the chronic illness.
• Physical symptoms: Both conditions can cause physical symptoms. Sjögren's can cause fatigue, pain, and digestive issues, while PTSD can cause chronic physical symptoms.
• Treatment considerations: Managing both conditions requires a comprehensive approach that includes treating both the autoimmune symptoms of Sjögren's and the psychological symptoms of PTSD.
• Autonomic nervous system: Sjögren's can affect the autonomic nervous system, leading to symptoms like orthostatic hypotension and digestive issues, which can further add to the stress of the condition. 

What you can do

• Discuss with your doctor: It is important to speak with your healthcare provider about any symptoms of both Sjögren's and PTSD. A doctor can help create an individualized treatment plan.
• Stress management: Stress management techniques are crucial for both conditions. Lifestyle changes like an anti-inflammatory diet, regular exercise, and sufficient sleep can help.
• Seek psychological support: Psychological therapy is essential for treating PTSD. Psychotropic medication may also be a component of treatment for the mental health aspects of both conditions.