6 truths about forgiving sexual abuse
People who are sexually abused are very often, however subtly or overtly, pressured to forgive their assailants. (A subject which, as you might know, has lately come up here.) If you are in any way burdened by the notion that you are not, as comprehensively as you or others feel that you’re obliged to, forgiving the person who sexually abused you, please consider these six truths about forgiveness (which, being universal, hold as true for the Christian as they do anyone else).
People who are sexually abused are very often, however subtly or overtly, pressured to forgive their assailants. (A subject which, as you might know, has lately come up here.) If you are in any way burdened by the notion that you are not, as comprehensively as you or others feel that you’re obliged to, forgiving the person who sexually abused you, please consider these six truths about forgiveness (which, being universal, hold as true for the Christian as they do anyone else).
In my experience (a female victim of trafficking and incest for something around 14 years) 'forgiving' is not something one can DO; it is only something that one can tell ones self about as if it were some kind of fairy-tale thing. ie: "Forgiveness is out there but I can't imagine it in my case." I'm not saying that forgiveness can't happen... it can but it seems to happen by itself and of its own accord. (And no one - NO ONE - "deserves" it.)
ReplyDeleteHi V Pendragon, my personal opinion is that the only ones that "we as victims" should forgive are ourselves. Then, only for the falsely perceived idea that we were somehow to blame for someone else's crimes. I am against forgiving those that committed the crimes and also those that protect them. Thank you for your comment.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the words of support on the post. I appreciate it.
ReplyDeleteKeep up the great work & happy blogging!
Zean