tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post6856559269440376916..comments2024-03-22T12:19:52.915+00:00Comments on Beyond Survivor - The Wounded Warrior Blog: To be, or not to be, that is the question.Beyond Survivorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13651923245154253074noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-11476197632255692372013-01-15T01:41:25.864+00:002013-01-15T01:41:25.864+00:00My brother died recently. He drank himself to deat...My brother died recently. He drank himself to death. No one seems to know why. I can only guess. Thank goodness some people are able to face their demons and survive. Thank you for being strong enough to do what my brother could not.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04986249712144982103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-55841526852167379692012-04-28T02:37:17.859+01:002012-04-28T02:37:17.859+01:00My heart goes out to you... No child asks for this...My heart goes out to you... No child asks for this.. this life long sentance. <3Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16558334649048117947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-44291275360513331122012-04-14T10:00:52.056+01:002012-04-14T10:00:52.056+01:00Your story is a testimonial that one can rebuild h...Your story is a testimonial that one can rebuild himself from the deepest pit. It also shows that abused children are left with a ruined mind. Something that most adults and courts need to know. Your witnessing has already saved many people. Keep talking about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-69730665030948709092012-03-14T11:18:49.117+00:002012-03-14T11:18:49.117+00:00Thank you my dear friends. YOU give me the motivat...Thank you my dear friends. YOU give me the motivation to carry on.Beyond Survivorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13651923245154253074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-10675316739271051162012-03-10T06:02:40.877+00:002012-03-10T06:02:40.877+00:00I feel blessed everyday that you came into my life...I feel blessed everyday that you came into my life<br />with your poetry. I am a survivor of a viscous assault in 2004. Stabbed, beaten,stomped and a lot Thank God I don't remember. They left me like a piece of trash 2 die alone on a deserted dead end road. Long story short, I was found & have been fighting both mentally/ physically, even 2 this day 2 get my life & dreams back. I was both a painter & Art Teacher. Dreams lost, fast forward 2 twitter & a brave sweet man offers a complete stranger 2 get her dreams back. @esduckieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-53530519204934674842012-02-21T22:56:09.692+00:002012-02-21T22:56:09.692+00:00Jan, I am so proud of your courage in posting your...Jan, I am so proud of your courage in posting your story. Many of the dark turns in your path mirror mine and I know how agonizing it can be to speak those words aloud, let alone to write them (which can be so much harder to do). There is nothing there to be judged on; all the blame and all the shame belongs to your abusers alone. Let none judge you for the choice of family you gather around yourself either. When horror and family cruelty make us create our own family where we can feel safe and loved, that is the only truth that matters. If any wish to judge, they must first suffer every pain you ever felt; if they can survive as you did, they will have no desire left in them to judge. We are survivors who choose to find the strength to share our past to help others. No one has the right to judge. You are an inspiration to many; a voice for those who are afraid to speak. Your articles and words have helped me often, to find my way through my own darkness. Thank you for sharing your pain, your light through the darkness, that warms us as we stumble on our way. Remember that we strive with you; you are not alone. Our paths to healing are parallel and may never cross in this world, but we can help each other and so many others just by knowing that each of us is not alone. - W.R.R. (@RagMan_RIP)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-23784699899000586712012-02-18T05:49:30.719+00:002012-02-18T05:49:30.719+00:00As I was reading through this post I was thinking,...As I was reading through this post I was thinking, 'what's there to judge?', given your concern about being judged harshly that you mentioned at the start. All I felt was this overwhelming sense of compassion because like so many survivors I know, the abuse has screwed up our lives well into adulthood. Trauma leads to all sorts of behaviours and so what I see in you is someone with amazing resilience to be able to get to where he is now. <br /><br />A fellow survivor said to me last year that the shame I carry about my adult life is not really mine to carry, because if I hadn't been abused then I would not have set foot on the path to self destruction. The shame belongs with the abuser(s) because our lives would have been a lot different if the abuse had not happened in the first place. <br /><br />It is to your credit that you have come this far in your own journey and I salute you for that. You have my deepest respect and admiration.ByronStolnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-49253912246711522572012-02-16T10:33:58.698+00:002012-02-16T10:33:58.698+00:00To be. To bear the soul from the shadows of the pa...To be. To bear the soul from the shadows of the past. To love the beauty of your soul. To save the clarity of your mind. To seek inner balance and peace. To appreciate God for the given gift to you; which is called life. To love life and be blessed to continue your life journey through the light that you carry within.~D~Debbie Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15049055067140358349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-65630326740753840862012-02-13T19:53:03.703+00:002012-02-13T19:53:03.703+00:00Dear Jan, you have become my wonderful friend. You...Dear Jan, you have become my wonderful friend. You are someone I look to connect with each day. The process of my speaking out and sharing my own story of abuse has brought many people into my life, but only a few that I have truly connected with on a friendship, respectful and mutual. You are a true survivor of your past and the traumas that haved plagued you. It is not your fault and you share your inspirations to continue moving forward with others each day. You give my soul a connection that is truly appreciated. You are a spark in my new life of healing and helping others. You are a support system for my good and bad days. I look for your poetic words each day and often they describe the lost person of my childhood. I praise you my friend for sharing all that you have here. Thank you for allowing me to read and share it with my friends and followers. Blessings of peace and hugs for your daily strength dear Jan. Know in your heart that you are a warrior moving forward in the aftermath of abuse. The happiness of life is due you and your words will allow your beautiful star to continue to light the way for many. hugs :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07506906568296444669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-6932914492228982312012-02-13T16:51:25.045+00:002012-02-13T16:51:25.045+00:00Oh Jan, your courage continues to inspire. I have...Oh Jan, your courage continues to inspire. I have learned not to tell others, "I understand" because I know how it makes me feel when they say it to me and I know they are totally clueless, but I so want to tell you how much I understand and really mean it. My postings have slowed down although my writing has not. I have been playing the "mind game" of "to post or not to post." Building the strength to share more one day at a time because I know you have my hand in yours. I hope you can feel my kind and gentle squeeze back to you. Stay well on your journey!Faith McDanielhttp://www.survivingwithfaith.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-52639494868083940222012-02-12T17:18:18.183+00:002012-02-12T17:18:18.183+00:00Jan, call it what you want but you have it. It tak...Jan, call it what you want but you have it. It takes courage to share what you have here, what you share in every one of your posts. I know what that loneliness feels like. I haven't felt it for awhile but I do remember. What helped me to stop feeling so lonely was to love myself. Know that you are worthy of your own love and of the love of family and friends.<br /><br />What happened to you was not your fault. You deserve better. Better has to start with you.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-60448682760007483612012-02-12T15:13:52.045+00:002012-02-12T15:13:52.045+00:00Not sure if it was courage, stubbornness, determin...Not sure if it was courage, stubbornness, determination or what. I've survived much. Why is the question I ask myself frequently. I really appreciate your support and that you left a comment here for me. This road I walk feels very lonely much of the time, even with family and friends around me. <br /><br />I never learnt how to play, how to belong, how to fit in. <br /><br />Thank you again. This support means so very much to me.Beyond Survivorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13651923245154253074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-44256298806640986212012-02-12T03:52:41.315+00:002012-02-12T03:52:41.315+00:00Beauty for ashes. There is a promise, I read it o...Beauty for ashes. There is a promise, I read it often. Hold onto this, you will be given beauty for ashes.<br /><br />My dear, the courage it took to write this, the determination to speak up, I applaud you. <br /><br />You continue to show wings, fluttering through, rising above an empty cocoon.Sharon Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00695395104518983907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-40551531890281724742012-02-11T23:26:09.018+00:002012-02-11T23:26:09.018+00:00My friend,please know that my life is better becau...My friend,please know that my life is better because I met you. I identify with you and share many of the same pain and grief. I am truly sorry for what happened to you. I love and care for you. FredyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15725578168881982813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6553737404201765566.post-14190866874899297582012-02-11T23:02:22.670+00:002012-02-11T23:02:22.670+00:00You are! You are beautiful soul, and the beauty is...You are! You are beautiful soul, and the beauty is there in everything you post despite the traumas that life has put you through.<br /><br />Life is a journey and some people have to enjour more than others. I don't know why that is and you have had to enjour some terrible things that no-one should have to go through.<br /><br />Your journey had been dark, but all I see in you is light.<br /><br />I hope I am making sense...CherryPiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11788084724907992076noreply@blogger.com