Thursday, 2 February 2012
Sexual Abuse - Stages Of Recovery #Amsosa
Looking Forwards, NOT Backwards
Is recovery possible? Can I make it? Is it worth it?
All too often, we tend to spend too much time looking back on the abuse we have already survived, and instead of living our lives, we give the past too much importance over who we are now, as opposed to what and who we were when abused, namely victims of sexual abuse or rape.
Why listen to someone who has not experienced what you have and believe what they tell you? If they are fully experienced in working with male survivors, by all means listen and talk to them, but don't allow anyone else to try and convince you that you were bad, complicit, wrong, dirty, or whatever negatives that tend to throw your way, because they have no idea how you think and feel.
This confusion often occurs because we are told or ill informed that the abuse defines us, but in reality it does not, as we were victims of sexual abuse or rape, but from day one, we became survivors and thrivors of sexual abuse and rape.
So how to get beyond that and start to feel better about who you are;
Understand the grief process that is involved in recovery and know that it is possible to get through the trauma's that you currently feel and experience.
Denial, shock, horror, pain, guilt, fears etc, are all common parts of the recovery process, but will diminish as time goes past.
Don't be afraid to say whatever is clouding your mind.
There is not an original act of abuse that has been done to you, just your version, so it has been heard before, and there should be no guilt or shame attached to what you need to say, in order to recover.
If you hold back, and keep the secrets that are not yours to keep, it will prevent your healing and keep you locked in shock and denial.
Break that barrier and you will see that hope is possible and that life is waiting. Don't buy into the bullshit version that life is just an existence, instead start to live your life!
All rights to this post belong to AMSOSA. Please do not copy without their permission.