Wednesday, 18 January 2012

Letting Go Of The Pain

Letting go of the pain caused by sexual abuse is difficult, painful and extremely hard to do, but it is not impossible to do!
No matter what happened when you were sexually abused, you survived, by whatever means, and you can overcome this trauma. Nothing is impossible, not if you want it that much.

•So, here’s my version of how to handle it, and guess what? It works too!

It involves you trusting someone, and telling ALL of the secrets you have hidden away for so long.
As you begin to tell, allow yourself to get in touch with all of the feelings, fears and emotions that arise.
Don’t be afraid to show the real you who has been hidden for so long.
Don’t be afraid of the emotions either, don’t be ashamed or afraid to be angry, sad, mad, or tearful.
You have the right to show those emotions, just like everyone else.
You don’t have to be a man, and ‘macho’ all of the time.
You don’t have to pretend to be a MAN all of the time either.
It doesn’t matter where you start, the beginning, middle or end is a good place to start, you can add to it as you talk.
From just the one issue, there are many issues that arise. It could be anger that you speak about on one occasion, then perhaps fear another time, maybe sadness, or the pain it caused you then and now.
Re-tell your story, and how it has affected you in different ways, until you know it has been exhausted. If and when it comes back, talk it through again and see it for what it is, just a memory that comes back.

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Anonymous said...

Your strategy is sound and correct. Once the secret is out, you are freed and then allowed to live your life. Be forewarned that you had better choose wisely as if the person wavers in any way, your mistrust issues will be in full bloom


Anonymous said...

Good advice, pick wisely and talk. By therapist said the sane thing.


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